Number 1 question I hear: "What about me?" Many people get thrown off by the sudden knowledge that their partner has been with another person, is consuming pornography, meeting many people through dating apps, and/or leading a secret life. In an effort to address this issue, a person can become so consumed by addressing the infidelity or sex addiction of a partner, that they lose track of their own needs. You are tired, angry, and feeling alone. You want a plan of action for yourself. You want education about sex addiction. You want someone to turn the lights on and listen as you work your way through this "crisis". Betrayal trauma are the words that describe the level of post trauma stress that you are dealing with- emotional and mental pain is real. Nobody finds it easy to share their sex life. Seek a professional who knows and understands sex addiction- look for a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. You will get confidential and supportive counseling. You will find your strength and make decisions that end or heal your relationship. This will be your choice and not anybody else's opinions.